I love my job because it forces me to keep it real with myself. I can’t coach or lead powerfully around topics I’m not having my own breakthroughs in. As I’ve been preparing for the next workshop that I’m co-faciliating around self care, I’ve invited myself to take on the next layer of work in this arena, since the “peeling back of the onion” never stops…
When I showed up to my coaching and leadership program just over 3 years ago, I was cocky around well-being, self-care, self-love, and everything in between, if I’m really honest about it —
I thought I had it all figured out.
After all, I had a background in psychology, counseling/therapy, yoga…I was having spiritual breakthroughs working with a local healer. I was an all knowing, righteous little beast! “What could these people actually show me?”
What I learned was my self care routine had been built from a place of I have to’s and I should’s, and if I didn’t do the things I should be doing, “I wasn’t good enough”.
I also learned that self care doesn’t mean self love, and if self love isn’t the driver of self care, the structure isn’t an empowering one.
Self care becomes all about fixing ourselves.
Getting it right.
Being perfect.
Proving we’re enough.
And, for most people – it’s unsustainable.
As I’ve taken on the next level of personal development in this area, the result has been to be able to show up everywhere at my highest and best, have my feelings vs. be them, and increase the energy richness I experience in my day to day world.
(The picture above is me celebrating my breakthrough in Savannah. How appropriate I came across that sign.:)
How it had been going, subconsciously, was more like:
“I haven’t been to yoga in a week. I don’t have space in my body. I get to be crabby and play small, and this is my excuse.”
“I didn’t get enough sleep last night, so I get to not give 100% because I’m tired.”
“I’ve travelled a lot lately. I don’t have space for all this. I get to back out of this thing because it’s not in service of my well-being.”
Notice all the leaking energy/power in how it was happening?!
Can you imagine the ammo that gave my inner critic?!
Curious to know that’s operating in your blindspots as it relates to your self care?!
Charlotte Metro ladies, we have 5 spots left for the self care workshop I’m co-faciliating next week with a local holistic health coach — Join us for an introspective, educational evening dedicated to empowerment for women.
Not in Charlotte? Stay tuned for distance offerings!
Interested in 1:1 coaching? Act fast — I’m almost full!
